Tuesday, September 24, 2013

And That's the Truth with Dan Pallotta



This is a great interview with Dan Pallotta, conducted by none other than my dear friend, Terry. I watched Dan's TED Talk, and like Terry says in this interview, I, too, realized I held a common bias - that non-profits should have low overhead. If you share that bias, I would encourage you to watch his compelling arguments to the contrary.

A couple points in the interview particularly struck me, the first one being the misunderstanding that people that are gay and come out, do it once and are done with it. "Sometimes I come out four times in one week," Dan says. He gave the example of how he and his partner are raising triplets, and a cab driver recently asked him how his wife felt about having triplets. He could have side stepped it, he could have lied, but he came out to the cab driver because not only was that more authentic, it held more integrity for his family.

As a special-needs mom, I feel like my "coming out" days are increasing. I am not saying it's the same thing, don't get me wrong, but what I am saying, is it struck a chord with me when Dan said that. More and more I'm getting casual comments and questions about what my 17-year-old will be doing after high school, and more and more I'm torn between being honest, kind, full of integrity, and also self- preservation. There is just so much energy one has for this type of thing.

Dan is an accomplished man, and at one point in the interview Terry steals a famous STM line, "You're not watching enough TV, as 'they' say!" she tells him. I love that she has morphed STM into "they" and I love that she used it. STM and I use that expression a lot (I think I've even blogged about it), because there was a day (and by "day," I mean decades) where we, too, were not watching enough TV. We were doing/going/moving and shaking all the live long day.

No more.

These days we are watching plenty of TV, which brings me to another interesting point Dan made. "Look at your calendar and see what is on it that makes you excited - what are you looking forward to, and do more of that. Follow your passion."

These days, what gives me endless delight is looking at a calendar, and finding at least one day in the week that doesn't have much on it at all, and if it does, it's something like, "change the beds." Put me in my house with great music and candles, and point me towards the laundry room, and I'm a happy, contented, if not blissful, woman. Give me a day like yesterday, where I was running around from sun up to sun down, scarfing Cliff Bars in the car and calling them breakfast, lunch and dinner, and I'm, shall we say, not a happy camper.

Following your bliss isn't always blissful. I do think we make things more complicated than they need to be, however, and if you're at all interested in simplifying, here's a great list of ways to get started.

So, be inspired, be encouraged, be provoked, and enjoy the interview!

Sunday, September 22, 2013

I HEART AMSTERDAM.




If you follow my instagram you may have seen a few snaps from a recent trip to Amsterdam. In aid of my best friends hen, 14 girls set off on an amazing trip to the bright lights (Or red ones that is) of Amsterdam.
Definitely a place I would love to have more time in…Lots of interesting architecture and laid back attitudes.
The weather was perfect, which meant one last go at the summer dresses. I’ve been wearing this MINKPINK Helping Hand dress so much since it arrived, so I don’t know why I haven’t got it on here sooner. I’m sure it will be equally as nice with some tights and a leather jacket/bomber come the colder months. AND it's now on sale. WIN!!


Above is the beer bike we hired which took us around the sights or Amsterdam... Note: This is like a mini workout, a lot of beer is spilt and causes hysterical laughing!
Below - 3 of the beauties on the trip, Samantha, Emma and Nicci


What I wore:




Thursday, September 19, 2013

WINTER IS COMING.




Jacket - Topshop (old). Shirt - UNIQLO.  Jeans - JBrand.  Hat - Topshop. Bag - C/o BritStitch

There’s a nip in the air and it’s making me panic. Its official, I have no warm clothes.
Hence why a lot of this outfit, if not all of it, has been featured at some point before. Apologies.
One thing that is new is this amazing custom bag from Brit-Stitch. The lovely guys over there let me test their new personalised service. Pick to your hearts desire, have a different strap, buckle, body and sides. Be warned, you could get slightly carried away. I opted for navy and pale dusky pink in the milkman style and I absolutely love it.

I slightly jumped the gun and missed my promised LFW post… oopsy. It will be up soon.




Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Tuesday, September 17, 2013

The Reading



Ok, just got back home after the reading, and my head is aswirl, but I'll take a stab at telling you about it. I won't share much about my friend's reading, other than to say it went all the way back to Christ and the crucifixion. Fascinating stuff. She said my friend, Susan, and I are "twin souls," souls created at the same time, and alternating teacher/leaner roles throughout many, many lifetimes.

My reading placed me in a past life where I danced along side, Lillie Langtry, one of King Edward's mistresses. I'd never heard of Lilly Langtry until today. She lived from 1953 - 1929, which means she was still alive when my dad was a young boy, and I can bet my bottom dollar, he knew all about her.

One thing that Marie said, we tend to reincarnate with the same cluster of souls over and over, which, I believe I've written about before. Often our parents, our spouse/partner and kids, are in our soul cluster. We take on different roles and genders, being parents to our parents, and kids to our kids, etc.

If you were to walk the planet believing you've been every color, gender, sexual orientation, religion, intellectual and class level before, wouldn't you walk the planet differently? But, I digress.

I guess not only was I a dancer in the past life that came through today, but in many, many past lives. Funny, because as a kid all I wanted to do was sing and dance on Broadway. I lacked absolutely everything necessary to do such a thing, so abandoned that dream long ago, but something stirred when she said that. Maybe I'll take a dance class. In the meantime, maybe I'll just dance with a broom in my kitchen to the tunes on Pandora. She also said I could "dance" psychologically and figuratively, not just literally.

She said I didn't come into this lifetime to learn anything in particular, but to have another human experience. That was different from being "on holiday," which some souls are, meaning they are taking a "bye" this lifetime from the suffering they've endured for many lifetimes, and are just coasting along this time, before resuming samsara. Later, when I told her I thought I'd come into this incarnation to provide a way for Wil to "volunteer" as a soul to help lead us out of this mess, she agreed, and then she went on to say many lovely things about my mothering that I'm too humble to repeat. She also warned me about letting people suck me dry, and how it was essential I recharge by being 100% alone. She was singing to the choir on those points, I've learned both the hard way.

We talked about the deja vu experience, and she said it's actually our subconscious knowing what's going to happen before it happens, so when it happens, it feels like it has happened before.

I did a past life regression before, and was, apparently, the most difficult to "put under" that this man had ever experienced. That used a hypnosis method by which I was asked to pull up past life memories. I'm not saying it wasn't real or even useful, but it was a big challenge for me. This experience was different, Marie held my hands on top of her outstretched ones, across the table. We each closed our eyes, and for 10-15 minutes she "had one foot on the other side" and shared what she saw.

She said the same thing I've heard over and over again, we all have the ability to use our left brains to see/hear/know things, it's a matter of being open, practicing, trusting, and developing that skill just like any other.

Blessings on all your lifetimes.

Namaste.

WHAT'S IN MY HANDBAG - LFW

In a flash my few days in London came and went. I didn’t even get to do half of the things I had planned, but hey ho… back in two weeks for the cosmo awards, very exciting.

I always find packing the hardest part of going to London esp with Fashion Week on the cards; of which I have an outfit post coming up in the next post, but here's a snippet of another ‘whats in my bag’ during my time in London.
This beautiful Fiorelli bag with its lock closing was perfect for filling up with the essentials, phone, camera and notebook. Lovely tan leather and a nice change from my usual black.
My iphone cover was from iconemesis - a FifiLapin design, which is super cute and reminds me of LFW with her cute over size shades. I wish it had been sunny enough to even bring mine out but alas it was only my umbrella that was needed.Along the way I was reminiscing of summer on my journey, with my fave Betty magazine.


Just before I headed to London, BIRCHBOX sent me this September edition, containing the infamous Bioderma which I have been dying to sample.

I also popped in the MODELCO party proof lipstick into my bag for my usual touch up throughout the day.

Finally here are some snaps from around the Somerset House exhibition, I was such in awe that half the time I forgot to take photos, but I made extra effort for kultdomini shoes, this gorgeous womenswear brand, that now I cant find the name of and the Newgen notebooks, which you picked your own cover and inside – I picked up Liam Fahy.
I had an amazing time and it was great to meet a few other bloggers there too. Hopefully next time I will have more time to spend there. Anyone else venture to LWF over the weekend?


Monday, September 16, 2013

Karmic

I have a dear friend, Susan, and we have a karmic connection. I don't know that for a fact but it certainly feels that way.

And, we're about to find out.

Susan has an incredible house and yard. She is generous with sharing both, and is often the host of lovely, if not magical, gatherings. She hosted my book launch, and that will live in my memory forever as one of the most love-filled nights of my life.

One hot morning last week, Susan had me over for espresso in French demitasse cups, with sugar cubes that had each of our initials on them. We drank water poured from a beautiful carafe into elegant stemware. We sat under a grape arbor at the perfect little table, with a beautiful, antique table cloth, ironed within an inch of its life. One reason I believe Susan and I have karma, is I am all about the, "Nothing fancy," and she is all about the, "Let's get FANCY! Life is for LIVING!" Her joie de vivre is contagious.

We had one of those glorious two-hour conversations that felt like two minutes. One of our most favorite things to talk about is spirituality. I shared my thoughts on reincarnation, and Susan was very open, but at the same time, a bit skeptical. We talked about a couple people that have come into our lives in such big and powerful ways, some briefly, some for the long haul, but the relationship's intensity defies the confines of this lifetime. To me, it only makes sense that it's past life stuff being picked up from where it left off, old lessons that haven't quite gotten to the finish line and are presented to us for another shot at it.

Susan texted today and said, "I know I'm breaking the no-call rule, but I just have to talk to you." I called. So glad I did. Susan was unable to shake our reincarnation conversation, and did some Googling. One thing led to another, just like it always does in a universe where there are no accidents, and she found a woman here in the area (sort of), that does past life readings.

Her name is Marie Friend. FRIEND of MARY! Come on. You have to go read that blog post of hers I just linked to, it's all about children (like Wil) that do NOT come back to continue on with the unfinished lessons from past lives, they come to help heal.

Susan called Marie right up on the phone and found she had openings coming up, she mentioned her friend (me) would probably want to come too, and Marie was all about making that happen. Long story short, they couldn't settle on a day that worked and then Marie said, "Well, I know it's short notice, but I could do tomorrow." As fate would have it, we were both able to slightly juggle (way less juggling than normal), and we are GOING TOMORROW!

Right after I got off the phone with Susan, I was thinking about some of the people that have come and gone from my life, and I put on Pandora. The song that was playing was one that always makes me think of such a person.

You go ahead and tell me that was an accident.